Your Mind Your Body

According to a 2009 survey conducted by Afterschool Alliance, one out of every four children (26%) nationwide return home after school and have no adult supervision.  This ‘kids in self-care’ phenomenon (also known as ‘latchkey kids’) is a growing trend and a source of great concern.

When we think of kids staying home alone, most of us can rapidly list a number of physical safety reasons as to why this practice is worrisome and potentially perilous for our children.  But, what about the psychological implications of leaving kids without supervision on a regular basis? Researchers have identified that children age 10 and younger typically express feelings of fear, loneliness, and boredom when home alone.  For older children, being in self-care has been linked to behavioral problems, increased susceptibility to peer pressure, delinquency, alcohol and other drug use, smoking and teen pregnancy. We also need to consider the loss in socialization and skills building that naturally happens when children have the opportunity to interact with other children and adults.

Several states have guidelines of how old children should be before they can be home alone. Some experts recommend that no child younger than 12 should be left unsupervised. Working outside of such guidelines could be considered child endangerment or neglect by child protection agencies.

Two factors that parents cite as reasons for leaving their children home alone are financial matters and the availability of after school programs for their children. After school programs that are reputable and well-organized have shown positive social, emotional and academic benefits for children.  There are many organizations around the U.S. that are taking notice and are actively trying to help working families.  For instance, the Metro Atlanta YMCA has kicked off a fundraising campaign with the goal of financially aiding working families to place their children in after school programs.

So, what do we, as parents, need to consider when determining if our children should be home alone?

1. Realistically and objectively assess the physical safety and psychological effects of being home alone for each child
2. Take into account the age and level of maturity of each child. Be mindful that even if children exhibit maturity and responsibility beyond their age, this practice may still not be in their best interest
3. Be informed about the after school opportunities available through the school or in the community. Schools are a great resource for getting information and guidance regarding reputable after school programs and financial assistance, if needed
4. If at all possible, opt to have the children involved in well-established after school programs

Working families need the support of employers, school systems, and their community to ensure that they can provide what is best for their children. All of our children deserve a chance at a healthy start—after all, they are the future of America.

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