Your Mind Your Body

So, we have officially started the third month of the New Year. How is it going so far? Have you been able to maintain the resolutions you set at the beginning of the year? If not, do not despair because there is hope. It is never too late to make changes that could have a positive impact on your health, and every little bit helps. For this reason, I am devoting this blog to a few of the smaller everyday changes that caregivers should consider that will hopefully provide dividends down the road. So, if you are in need of suggestions for smaller, more attainable goals, this is the place for you. Here are a few resolutions that stem from lessons I have learned in working with those who spend their time engaged in caring for a loved one with dementia.

• I will make more of an effort to take care of myself. I emphasize this to the caregivers I work with during every visit. It is so easy to lose track of one’s personal needs when you are focused on caring for someone who depends on you so desperately. Unfortunately, neglecting one’s own health can lead to a decreased ability to provide the very care that keeps your loved one stable and safe. Therefore, keeping doctor’s appointments, taking medications as prescribed, and getting rest whenever possible are vital keys to success for the caregiver.
• I will continue to learn about my loved one’s disease. Whether it is Alzheimer’s disease, Lewy Body Dementia, or dementia related to vascular issues, one of the most important aspects of providing care is to know what challenges are involved with the process. Increasing your own knowledge of the various behavioral issues and cognitive limitations that are common in dementia allows one to be more prepared for the road that lies ahead.
• I will treat myself as often as possible to the little enjoyments in life. It may be recording your favorite television program so you can watch it when you have time, spending more time outside on a sunny day, or even sneaking a bite of chocolate throughout the day. Whatever it is that brings you joy, be sure you do it often (and guilt-free).
• I will acknowledge my feelings about my loved one who suffers from dementia. This may mean dealing with emotions of anger, disappointment, or regret related to the the demands associated with providing care for someone with dementia. This is never an easy process, but it is only through recognition of these feelings that a person can gain a more complete understanding and, hopefully, develop effective ways of coping with them.
• I will try to be more flexible in my approach to providing care. I often speak with caregivers who become frustrated with trying to get their loved one to complete some of the simplest tasks. Whether the struggle is over taking a pill, buttoning up a shirt, or making sure the care recipient’s hair is combed to the right side. Sometimes the best option is to take a break, step away, and either try again later or forget about it altogether.
• I understand that I am not perfect and I never will be. One thing that makes caregiving such a dynamic and difficult process is that the care being provided is constantly changing. Approaches to manage the behavioral issues associated with dementia may work one day and not the next. You may lose your temper and say things that you wish you had not. No one is perfect and these things happen to everyone. Instead of dwelling on the aspects of caregiving you wish you could have done differently, focus on the lessons learned and the many ways you show your loved one you care each and every day.

Filed under: Aging, Chronic Illness & Disease Management, Lifestyle & Behaviors, Stress