Gift buying season is in full swing. If you pay careful attention to ads and TV commercials, you’ll notice how little focus is on the product itself. Instead you are drawn to images of people and their warm interactions with one another–all designed to appeal to your emotions.
Whether the advertiser is selling fruitcake or diamonds, the message is the same: The recipient of your gift will be delighted, and you will be the hero of the moment. On TV and online, background music is engineered to deepen your emotional involvement in the ad, further increasing your desire to buy the advertised product.
The images in the ads imply that purchasing the product will make you a better parent, a more thoughtful spouse, or a more special friend–and who doesn’t want that? It’s a very strong emotional message that appeals to one’s insecurities. People fall for this ploy every day, buying things for others in order to feel better about themselves.
Holiday gifts are overrated
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My Menurky is ready. The unique menorah, shaped like a turkey, will be part of this year’s Hanukkah and Thanksgiving “crossover event.” This year, Hanukkah and Thanksgiving overlap and it will not happen again for 75,000 years!
Given the unique nature of the day, I started to wonder about how to celebrate both. There is the obvious: latkes and a Butterball turkey; Matzo ball soup and stuffing. But how can we celebrate the miracle of Hanukkah with the idea of thankfulness inherent in Thanksgiving?
The holiday season is a perfect time for parents to teach the quality of gratitude to their children. This lesson can begin early. Children model the important adults in their lives. Gratitude, empathy and the recognition of the miracles around us do not come automatically. These take time to develop and we, as adults, need to do things to encourage these traits and show our children how we express them.
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#Howto help when a friend or family member is in emotional crisis. http://t.co/nDNwCuVwmG #therapyworks— APAHelpCenter (@APAHelpCenter) November 10, 2013
If you saw your friend unable to walk because of a broken leg, you probably wouldn’t try to fix it yourself, and you probably wouldn’t tell your friend to just “deal with it and be strong.” No, instead, you’d likely want to see her get help and get the leg fixed. In fact, most might even get the friend in a car and drive her to an emergency room.
When it comes to emotional and mental pain, it needs to be treated the same way—people often need the benefit of a professional. Psychotherapy works, and it’s effective for a number of conditions and problems. Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, even insomnia and chronic stress are just a few of the problems that psychotherapy can help improve.
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People tell me they don’t know what to do or say when they hear that a friend has received a breast cancer diagnosis. They want to help, but they don’t want to be a bother. With that in mind, and in recognition of October of National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I have complied a list of what to say or do when talking to a friend.
1. Remember you are still a friend, and she needs you to laugh with, cry with and everything in between. And know she will have changing moods.
2. Call. Even if you don’t know what to say. It’s OK to say “I don’t know what to say.” And if this is still too difficult, send cards…lots of them.
3. Take your cues from your friend. Ask questions like “What kind of day are you having today?” or “What do you feel like doing today?”
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