People tell me they don’t know what to do or say when they hear that a friend has received a breast cancer diagnosis. They want to help, but they don’t want to be a bother. With that in mind, and in recognition of October of National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I have complied a list of what to say or do when talking to a friend.
1. Remember you are still a friend, and she needs you to laugh with, cry with and everything in between. And know she will have changing moods.
2. Call. Even if you don’t know what to say. It’s OK to say “I don’t know what to say.” And if this is still too difficult, send cards…lots of them.
3. Take your cues from your friend. Ask questions like “What kind of day are you having today?” or “What do you feel like doing today?”
4. Help your friend stay …[Read More]
This weekend we’re in Colorado participating in the annual Fitness and Health Social Media Conference. What’s a blog written primarily by psychologists doing at a fitness conference?
The answer is right there in this blog’s name: Your mind, your body. Healthy minds need healthy bodies. Healthy bodies need healthy minds. Psychologists help people overcome obstacles and barriers to healthy living. Some even work alongside physicians and other health care provider as a team to help get healthier and live healthier.
During the weekend, I hope to learn new ideas to help psychologists communicate this important messsage. And I look forward to meeting writers and bloggers who, while they may not always write about mind-body connection, recognize its importance, and the importance of sharing quality information with their community.
To our new visitors attending the conference, hello and welcome! We hope you’ll take a look through our posts and learn more about the mind-body health connection. …[Read More]
You’re in therapy? Congratulations for choosing to take this vulnerable, powerful journey toward healing and empowerment! You’re not alone, as around 10 million of your fellow Americans are traveling this road alongside you. I hope you’re making progress toward your goals, learning more about yourself and your fellow humans, and doing this all in a comfortable, compassionate environment.
You may be excited about what you’re accomplishing and learning. Like every other positive experience in your life, you probably want to share it with those around you. You’ll Tweet about the best burger in town or share your vacation photos on Facebook, so why not discuss your incredible journey of self-knowledge?
Yes and no. There are elements of your therapy that can and probably should be shared, but others that might best be kept between you and your psychotherapist. To rev up this discussion, why talk about your therapy at all?
To reduce stigma
Believe it or not, in 2013 there still exists …[Read More]
For most kids the first day of kindergarten is an exciting time. But the transition can also be worrisome. It’s a big step for children and their parents.
Even kids who have been through pre-school know that kindergarten is an entirely different experience. They see references to kindergarten on TV and listen to other family members talk about it. Because young children don’t process information in the same way adults do, they may misinterpret what they see and hear, and start worrying about the first day of school.
Fortunately, there are simple things that parents can do to help make the first day of kindergarten easy and fun. The key ingredients are managing your own anxiety, and communicating in a way that fits with your child’s level of intellectual and emotional development.
Manage your own anxiety.
Focus on your child’s opportunities for learning and for making new friends. If you’re one of those parents who constantly worries about safety, …[Read More]